Apr
13
2011

The Golden Rule Of Friendship

When you have a friend, the world suddenly looks different; what was commonplace yesterday is filled with magic today. Friends make us feel good-about ourselves, about life. Friendship makes it possible to share play, exercise, or sorrow with somebody else. Friends can even help keep us healthy.

People with more social contacts-whether from marriage, close friends, relatives or church-were two to five times more likely to outlive people with fewer contacts.

People in less developed societies who had close relationships with neighbors had lower blood pressure and fewer symptoms of heart problems and were less depressed than people in advanced societies with fewer neighborly ties.

Friends are good medicine, but it isn’t always easy to get true and real ones. It’s not easy to find and keep friends when you are constantly changing location, occupation and interests.

A frantic lifestyle is only partly to blame for floundering friendships. The real problem is that we’ve forgotten what it takes to be a good friend.

The first rule of friendship is to give of yourself. You can’t do that if you’re occupied with gratifying yourself-climbing the career ladder or jogging alone everyday.

If you want to master the fine art of friendship, follow these rules.

Be prepared to work. Getting through the tough times, offering encouragement when the other desperately needs it…the main work of friendship consists of just such homely tasks.

Make time. If friends are being squeezed out of your life, it’s time to rearrange your priorities. Ask your friend to share an activity you actually do alone.

Seek friends outside marriage. It is a mistake to forgo friends when you marry. When you left behind your friendships and turn to your spouses to fill your friendship needs, you overburden them and limit yourselves.

Go where friends may be found. You won’t find friends if you are sitting home every day. Volunteer and join support groups- it’s a great way to connect with people. Don’t overlook the value of social contacts at work. And don’t close out people of different ages and races. Build a wide network of friends.

Share simple moments. Friends are not just people with whom we share activities. They are people who, quite literally, let each other be.

Don’t look for perfection. There’s competition and envy and times when your friends let you down. Good frienships survive their flaws.

Are your friendships in trouble? Do you have friends because you are a friend-reliable, gracious and giving? Or you have friends, and some of them stick with you in spite of yourself? Hold them close, and try to make one more true friends each year.

If you’re looking for friends but are probably unable to find them. You need to fine-tune your friendship skills.

Nicetas

About the Author: Nicetas Juanillo

Writing makes me happy away from home. My website is where you can find my tips about lifestyle, health and other issues. I also have books on my site that you can read to know more

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