LOVE AND MARRIAGE
At the heart of a successful marriage is the commitment-firmly held by two people-that come what may, they will be on each other’s side.
A Litmus Test
“If we discovered that we had only five minutes left to say all we wanted to say, every telephone booth would be occupied by people calling other people to stammer that they loved them.” -Christopher Morley
“So through the eyes love attains the heart: For the eyes are the scouts of the heart, And the eyes go reconnoitering, For what it would please the heart to possess. And when they are in full accord And firm, all three, in the one resolve, At that time, perfect love is born From what the eyes have made welcome to the heart.” -Guiraut De Borneilh
A Beloved Bible Verse
“Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
“Love never ends; as for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. For our knowledge is imperfect and our prophecy is imperfect; but when the perfect comes, the imperfect will pass away. When I was a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became a man, I gave up childish ways. For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall understand fully, even as I have been fully understood. So faith, hope, love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.”-1 Conthians 13:4-13 Revised Standard Edition
Pierre Lovcs Natasha
“A joyful, unexpected frenzy, of which Pierre had believed himself incapable, seized upon him. The whole meaning of life, not for him only, but for all the world, seemed to him centered on his love and the possibility of her loving him. Sometimes all men seemed to him to be absorbed in nothing else than his future happiness. It seemed to him sometimes that they were all rejoicing as he was himself, and were only trying to conceal that joy, by pretending to be occupied with other interests. In every word and gesture he saw an allusion to his happiness. He often surprised people by his significant and blissful look and smiles, that seemed to express some secret understanding with them. But when he realized that people could not know of his happiness, he pitied them from the bottom of his heart, and felt an impulse to try to make them somehow understand that all that they were interested in was utter nonsense and trifles not deserving of attention.”- Leo Tolstoy, War and Peace
Into The Unknown
“Marriage is a journey toward an unknown destination-the discovery that people must share not only what they don’t know about each other, but what they don’t know about themselves.”- Michael Ventura
The Power of Recall
“When marriage gets into trouble many people obsessively focus all their energy and attention on the “problem” causing their difficulties. Yet it can often be far more saing at such times to concentrate on the positive feelings that brought the marriage partners together in the first place.”-Norman Lobsenz